I love my son, Tim, dearly.  I love my daughter, too, but she’s not the subject of this post (sorry, Molly – another post for you).  Tim was married Saturday evening, in an amazingly beautiful and meaningful Captiva Island ceremony, and I was the “mother of the groom”.  I truly didn’t see that coming and was unprepared.

As it turns out, the mother-of-the-groom role, though short-lived, is pretty significant to the woman experiencing it – more significant than I had thought.  In hindsight, here’s the way I see it.  You are a boy’s mother, and he’s your son, from the first moment and for a lifetime.  That’s a wonderful role, and a straightforward one that involves only mother and son.  But the mother-of-the-groom role is completely contingent on the appearance of another woman on the stage.  There’s a yin and a yang to it; the term “mother-of-the-groom” can only take shape when the stage is shared.  Think about it – the term itself connotes two different relationships at once – mother and son, son and bride.  More importantly, it suggests an important transition in the son’s life.

As I said, I love my son and I still feel that same emotional tug when I watch him, or say good-bye to him, just like I did when he was a vulnerable-seeming little boy.  But more importantly, now, I am sweetly happy for him as he stands beside his beautiful and intelligent bride, Tracey, and looks out at a future full of shared possibilities.

My heart is full.


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Kathleen Gill

I am a semi-professional photographer, with the passion of a true amateur, drawn primarily to nature and travel, but open to and intrigued by most everything. In 2014, I began working on a 52-Week Photo Project, posting one photo a week that expressed something about that week – a theme, a story, a feeling. My intent was to add an element of story-telling to my work. That project was successfully completed in September 2015 and is all stored in the archive here. After a several month break, I began a new 12-month project. Each month in 2016 I will present a group of carefully curated images – a sort of thematic portfolio – along with an essay. My intent is to improve my editing skills and, of course, motivate me to keep on shooting. Please follow me and let me know what you think. You can see more of my work on my website: www.kathleengillphotography.com.

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